Weightloss………a Christian journey, a Godly perspective.

Keep At It! Part 1/2 November 10, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 10:31 am

Today is weigh in day!! I woke up excited because I haven’t loss since July/August I had a controlled week and even felt lighter. Not losing in over three months can be pretty discouraging but I have attributed it to my new lifestyle change and adjustment. This past week I ate fairly well, I didn’t go over my points. I worked out almost every day, so I just knew I would wake up to at minimum a one pound loss. Boy was I wrong! I woke up to a pound gain. I couldn’t believe it. I was (still trying to convince myself out of it) discouraged and felt defeated. I actually wanted to call Weight Watchers and end my subscription today. But then I decided that I must press forward, and try again.

Weekly I blog on Empowermoments. Today’s post (I wrote previously) is entitled, “Keep At It”. How befitting. It’s not about weightloss, but maybe God was preparing me to read it for myself today.

This is it:

Keep At It!

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”   I Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

One day my daughter and I were at the playground and she wanted to try the monkey bars. She’s a very cautious little soul and a far cry from a “dare devil”. Assessing the situation she says, “Mommy, why when you try new things you fall.” I replied, “Because with new things, you don’t quite know how to do them yet so you have to learn. Sometimes you get help and sometimes you just practice practice practice.” And her proud reply, “Practice makes Perfect!!”

As she dodged the monkey bars and went to the swings I pondered on her question, “Why when we try new things we often times fall?” I thought about some of you, myself, and the women that inbox me about my walk with Christ. Often times when you are either a new believer, or trying to learn a new godly behavior, sometimes you fall. Not fall is in fall from grace, but fall as in stumble, or trip. You don’t quite get it yet.

How many times have you said to God, “Lord I’m going to live right! I am not going to have sex any more until I’m married.” Only to find yourself laying there in the dark looking at the ceiling, defeated and embarrassed as the guy lies next to you peacefully sleeping. How many times have you said, “Lord, I am not going to deal with gossiping anymore, I am done with tainting my spirit and being an accessory to this foolishness.” Only to find yourself deep into a juicy phone conversation about the relationship you “heard” was about to end in a divorce. Or even, you promised God that you would read your Bible daily, only to remember 8 days later that you forgot about the promise and can’t find your Bible anywhere.

Along this Christian journey there are highs and lows, ups and downs. We try so hard to get it just right and sometimes we even fall. I’ve been there, you are not alone. Even “seasoned” Christians go through these falling periods. If we all were perfect, we wouldn’t need grace and mercy now would we? Don’t be mistaken, you do get to a point where you are able to judge your own actions and determine if it is pleasing to God, but you may miss the mark in your quest for obedience.  Paul even figuratively shares that he was inflicted with a thorn in his side to keep him humble. Your thorn may be a scar, an STD, or some other type of blemish. But God reassures Paul when he says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

I told my daughter that sometimes you need help with new things. I believe that everyone should have a mentor. I have a spiritual mentor, wife mentor, mom mentor, professional mentor; the list goes on and on. They are people that are not necessarily in “higher” areas of Christianity, but they are more experienced and serve as tangible vessels that God sent me. When I feel like I’m falling, want to fall, or have fallen, my mentors are there to give me godly advice and encouragement. The next thing I told my daughter was “practice makes perfect.” The more you work at, the better you get. I’ve often told my mentees, the more you practice, the louder your Holy Spirit gets. If you are not trying to live a life of spiritual godliness, your conscience is flesh-led. But when you decide to have “help” from the Lord, your conscience submits to the Holy Spirit and it speaks from within. (Read about the Holy Spirit as your helper in John 14.)

Someone reading this is pretty frustrated with their walk. God told me to write this to you a few days ago, but I couldn’t’ seem to pull it together until now. I want to encourage you with this scripture, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 The Holy Spirit is a helper and a sustainer. You may stumble sometimes in this walk, but you’ll realize that these “stumbles” actually propel you forward to a closer walk with God.

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for all of my sins. Those I have committed knowingly and unknowingly. On this quest of living a life more pleasing to you, please plant people in my life that will hold me accountable to your ways. Help me to recognize your Spirit and heed to its instructions. When I stumble, help me to realize that you are able to keep me from falling so that I can dust myself off and keep going. These setbacks are just a set up for my blessing. In Jesus’s name I pray, Amen.

Sistah Girl, I EMPOWER you today to keep going. Don’t get discouraged or feel that your walk with Jesus is in vain. This walk is a process, “So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.”  James 1:4 (NLT)  When you hand over your problems, your walk, your faith, and your desires to Jesus, you can say, “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,” Jude 1:24 KJV


Allow Psalms 121 to minister to you.


The Hard Part is Getting There… October 19, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 1:11 pm

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 NKJV

For the past month or so I have been in a weightloss rut. I am thankful that the scale hasn’t gone up, but it hasn’t gone down either. This is the point where weight loss becomes discouraging. Especially when you are really trying!!

On Monday I decided I was too tired and too busy to go running but as the day progressed I realized I was sabotaging my self. Who was going to be hurt by me not working out? No one but me! I made a decision to run while my daughter was at dance class later that evening, the track is in walking distance. All while getting dressed I pouted and procratinated, go up, sat down, got back up, sat back down. After all of this hoop-lah of getting ready I prayed:

Dear Lord,

You know I am in a rut, but I want to increase my strength and increase my health. Lord help me relieve this burden of laziness and self discouragement. Please give the strength and motivation to stay on track. I really need you to help me in this.



In God’s awesome fashion, of course my motivation didn’t come right then (Don’t we wish He moved on our clocks sometimes). I still pressed to get to the car. Dropping my daughter off at dance class I felt a shift and realized, I DID IT! I AM HERE!  The hard part is not the workout, it’s getting there. I came out of the studio and proceeded to stretch at my car, turn on my ipod and coasted to the track.

It’s not enough for us to just pray and expect God to move. Faith without works is dead! James 2:20 NKJV   You have to do your part. Do your best, and let God do the rest!

The hard part is getting there. Press your way through and lay aside every weight that besets you, and run the race God has set forth for you to complete. Read Hebrews 12:1




Repost: F.E.A.R.

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Support — kayveebee @ 12:49 pm

This is a post from a blog I write to: empowermoments.org

False Evidence Appearing Real

For some time I’ve wanted to try a new running path. It’s along a main street and neighboring homes with a sidewalk. But for some reason I kept feeling bound to the track. Maybe because it was safe and familiar to me. I would pull up to the park each morning and start my same ole run but deep down I really wanted to get out there and jog that road!

I was scared. I was scared that it was too far, or that I would look silly (I run, but I don’t look like a runner), or that a dog would chase me. So everyday I ran in circles around the track until one morning the Holy Spirit brought this to my memory, “You have nothing to fear but fear itself.” No, this is not a scripture; it’s actually a quote from one of our past Presidents, but God uses what we know to catch our attention. I started pondering on that quote and realized that He was right. I have nothing to fear, but fear.

I am a self-proclaimed self-motivator. When I am feeling fearful or down and out I start talking to my inner self. Here is how the conversation went:

“Kay, you are running around this track, BOUND by fear thinking you can’t do it. Are you kidding? Did you not know that you can do all things through Christ that has made you strong? You are a child of the most high God, He will protect you! Look at your legs; look how God has strengthened them. How can you go higher if you stay running in this circle? You need to kick it up a notch!”

Later on I went to my Bible to look up scriptures on fear (yes all of this to prepare me for a new trail). These are the words that God showed me.

“Yea though I walk the valley of the shadow of death I will fear NO evil, for thou art with me!” (Psalm 23:4 KJV)

“The LORD is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1 NIV)

“The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” (Psalm 118:6 NIV)

“I sought the LORD, and He answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” (Psalm 34:4 NIV)

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish. Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all. For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” (Isaiah 41:10-13 NIV)

When I began writing this EmpowerMoment, God confirmed for me that this is really not about a jog, but about fear. How many of you are bound by fear, running around the track, scared to venture out? How many of you are scared to tell that man, “Look, this isn’t working; I’m compromising too much,” for fear of being alone? How many of you reading this are bound by your fears of starting your own business because the money doesn’t seem right or you are scared you will fail? How many of you are scared to lose, or even scared to win, because of what others may think?

How many of you reading this have been hurt, scarred, and abused but scared to love again? Did you not know that God will restore and can restore you? Did you not know that God heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds? (Psalms 147:3 NIV)

The next day I ran that new trail and felt EMPOWERED after I did it. I had nothing to fear but fear itself. All of the evidence I thought existed was false, for fear is FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL!

Dear Daddy,

You are shelter in the time of storm, a comforter when I’m sad, my protector in the time of trouble, and my redeemer when I’ve messed up. Lord, I pray that You teach me how to be fearless! Teach me how to rely on Your Word in knowing that my fears are false evidence. Help me to realize that fear does not come from You. It is a trick of distraction from the enemy to hinder the plans You have for me. Give me strength in You Lord, to be bold and do what You’ve called me to do. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Ladies, I EMPOWER you to step out of fear and walk in faith. Do not remain bound any longer, for God has given you strength, peace, and the resources you need to carry out the task. I EMPOWER you to encourage yourself when you feel the enemy trying to discourage you. Pull out God’s Word and fight!


Priority vs. First September 7, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Family,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 11:24 am

Sometimes during our weight loss journey, or even at the beginning for that matter, we may think we aren’t strong enough or good enough to even pay ourselves that much attention. I remember when I seriously started my journey I had to make a decision. Being such a devoted wife, mother, and employee I was often pulled in many directions. One day God inspired in me the concept of priority versus first. A priority is something that is regarded as “more important.” Whereas first is just that, first. I adopted the notion that I had to make me a priority. That doesn’t mean that I will be first, because sometimes my daughter or husband came first, and truthfully thanks to a loving supportive family, my work would come first. But at the end of the day, I had to make sure that I was a PRIORITY! That meant, certain parts of my day were for me ONLY. Whether is was my Weight Watchers meeting, lunch at the park (even if it was in my car), alone time with God (even if it were in my office), or just a drive, aimlessly, to relax my mind and regroup.

See God tells us, ” In him we were also chosen,having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will,” (Ephesians 1:11 NIV). So this means I don’t have to juggle everything to try and make it work, God is working it out any way.

Further more, “30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:30 NIV) I’ve decided to give God all of the stress and to set myself as a priority!!

This means, I am working out when I need to, I am etching out time in my day!


Self Control…. August 17, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Eating Better,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 9:33 am

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

Let’s be honest. The main reason why many people are overweight is due to a lack of self control *raises hand in shame*. This is indeed a Christian journey for me. Because I am limiting my intake of food, I am realizing that I have to give myself a stopping point. This is such a feat, especially if there is another serving waiting on me to indulge.

While praying and asking God to give me the strength to start and continue this process He shared with me in meditation that I have to get to the root of the problem. My problem did not reside in a bumpy childhood (I think we all have had those). It did not stem from growing up in a single parent home, nor did it stem from emotional abuse from peers and feelings of insecurity. The root of my problem was self control. I could not seem to give myself boundaries with food. Why? Because it doesn’t talk back, and you can manipulate it. Food is not judgmental and it doesn’t show you it’s adverse affects immediately.

I want to encourage you today to take back your life and begin living in God’s way. He desires for us to have self control.  You can start by filling your day with things to do. Plant a garden, go for a walk, read a book, make a phone call to a relative, paint,  or start a new hobby.

We want to eat to live………not live to eat.

God Bless You,



OH MY GOD! – So this is the Abundance you were mentioning! August 14, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Eating Better,Family,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 9:53 pm

Let me first start off by saying…………“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13 NIV)

I was just sitting here reflecting on my dinner the other night. Hubby and I went on a date with a few of our friends. Before the evening, I took the menu, planned, planned, and planned what to eat. This pre-planning did a few things: 1) I didn’t get tempted by the menu because it was familiar to me from looking at it all day. 2) I didn’t have to devour the entire menu because I already new what I wanted. 3) I went ahead and added the points to my calculator, so I new EXACTLY where I was. (I’m on Weight Watchers) My friends chuckled because I specifically asked for NO BUTTER!

I entitled this blog about abundance because I have yet been hit with another “ah ha”. This journey is causing me to look at quite a few more things in my life and I am now focusing on the joy that each of those things bring. I had more to say about last night than just “that food was so good” but I left the table feeling happy because I enjoyed laughing, talking, joking, crying from laughter, etc because I was not consumed with the food.

God wants us to live life in abundance, but this abundance can only be reached by an inner stability. I felt stable last night, I felt joy! I felt like I had self-control.

I feel empowered because to get activity points I take tap dancing lessons. This gives me joy to do something I love, dance!

I am truly living in God’s abundance. I am thankful that he is using WW as my ticket to a happier more empowered me!!

Enjoy this journey, I’m not looking to the end, I am satisfied with today. One meal, one work out, one day, at a time!




Eat Healthy and Exercise or Die! July 24, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Family,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 5:08 pm

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. ”  (I Corinthians 10:31 ESV)

Hello Everyone,

Some months ago I made a decision to honor God with my body. I am always singing, praising, ministering, and so forth to others, but didn’t realize that I was not worshiping Him in truth. Maybe in spirit…….but not in truth.

I entitled my post “Exercise and Eat Healthy or Die” because I feel that’s what will happen to me if I don’t. I may die physically, emotionally, or spiritually, but some part of me will die!

Who am I, glad you asked :-). I am a loving wife to a second year law student and the proud giddy mother of a 3T girl. I currently teach college biology and anatomy and physiology…….go figure, while in school starting a doctorate program in Education. Most importantly, I am a child of God learning everyday to live pleasing in His sight.

So, why am I here, glad you asked :-). When my husband and I made the decision that he would go to law school, I didn’t know what I was up against. Not only would our income be split, but he would have to move 3 hours away from us. Being his #1 cheerleader and I knew this was a life long dream of his, I didn’t think about the affect (although he did) that it would have on me. I became exhausted and depressed…….and gained an extra 20lbs (I was already 40lbs overweight). I made myself a promise that while he was away, I would focus on working on me………..FAILED! When he finished his first semester I realized I’d gained 20lbs. Being a husband that loves me at any size (unless I am unhealthy via doctor’s results) he was fine with it and just encouraged me to workout.

During all of this I turned 30!! Loving 30 and feeling empowered, I had no idea my body didn’t. During our Christmas break all of my rough awakening moments came:

1. We went to our doctors’ appointments (we’re attached at the hip, lol) and all of my vitals were great! However, weighing in at way over 200lbs I was a tad uneasy about my blood work. It came back and the nurse called. She said, “all levels are fine except your sugar…………it’s a little higher than we like. Take a look at a diabetes diet and you should be fine. If you are young enough you can turn this around.” My heart sank……..both of my parents have diabetes, and I DO NOT want to go down that road. So I immediately started watching my sugar intake. But after careful research, I also found that WEIGHT IS A MAJOR FACTOR! With this in mind, baby number 2 (in the back of my mind) may not be a healthy thing.

2. Since  summer 2010 I noticed problems with bladder incontinence. Shrugging this off due to having my daughter (2.5 WHOLE YEARS AGO) I figured it would go away. It didn’t. After our doctors’ appointments, I was referred to a Urologist. The visit was WORSE than a pap smear. He said that my bladder had only dropped a tad so I wasn’t in any danger……………..and here’s the whammy: “But if you lost about 20lbs (there’s that number again) it would probably relieve your bladder of the pressure.

3. The biggest awakening of all: My dear husband came to me with a jump rope (since I like exercising actually) and said…………I told you I don’t have a problem until your health becomes at stake. “I’m not going to school to better our lives and you won’t be here to share it with us.” OH MY GOD! Did he just say that? Yes, with a huge hug, jump rope and all he said it. He downloaded the WW app on our cell phones for me and helped me work out an action plan.

So……..at this point I’m encouraged and realize that eating healthy and exercising is a necessity to my health.

So what’s different……………….my health is now more important than my weight. To date, I am 40lbs lighter and am looking forward to another 40.

These “ah ha” moments gave me an ultimatum to get right. My blog is dedicated to the person that has a sincere desire to lose weight, not as a fad, but to live a healthier life to be a stronger soldier for Christ.