Weightloss………a Christian journey, a Godly perspective.

Keep At It! Part 1/2 November 10, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 10:31 am

Today is weigh in day!! I woke up excited because I haven’t loss since July/August I had a controlled week and even felt lighter. Not losing in over three months can be pretty discouraging but I have attributed it to my new lifestyle change and adjustment. This past week I ate fairly well, I didn’t go over my points. I worked out almost every day, so I just knew I would wake up to at minimum a one pound loss. Boy was I wrong! I woke up to a pound gain. I couldn’t believe it. I was (still trying to convince myself out of it) discouraged and felt defeated. I actually wanted to call Weight Watchers and end my subscription today. But then I decided that I must press forward, and try again.

Weekly I blog on Empowermoments. Today’s post (I wrote previously) is entitled, “Keep At It”. How befitting. It’s not about weightloss, but maybe God was preparing me to read it for myself today.

This is it:

Keep At It!

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”   I Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

One day my daughter and I were at the playground and she wanted to try the monkey bars. She’s a very cautious little soul and a far cry from a “dare devil”. Assessing the situation she says, “Mommy, why when you try new things you fall.” I replied, “Because with new things, you don’t quite know how to do them yet so you have to learn. Sometimes you get help and sometimes you just practice practice practice.” And her proud reply, “Practice makes Perfect!!”

As she dodged the monkey bars and went to the swings I pondered on her question, “Why when we try new things we often times fall?” I thought about some of you, myself, and the women that inbox me about my walk with Christ. Often times when you are either a new believer, or trying to learn a new godly behavior, sometimes you fall. Not fall is in fall from grace, but fall as in stumble, or trip. You don’t quite get it yet.

How many times have you said to God, “Lord I’m going to live right! I am not going to have sex any more until I’m married.” Only to find yourself laying there in the dark looking at the ceiling, defeated and embarrassed as the guy lies next to you peacefully sleeping. How many times have you said, “Lord, I am not going to deal with gossiping anymore, I am done with tainting my spirit and being an accessory to this foolishness.” Only to find yourself deep into a juicy phone conversation about the relationship you “heard” was about to end in a divorce. Or even, you promised God that you would read your Bible daily, only to remember 8 days later that you forgot about the promise and can’t find your Bible anywhere.

Along this Christian journey there are highs and lows, ups and downs. We try so hard to get it just right and sometimes we even fall. I’ve been there, you are not alone. Even “seasoned” Christians go through these falling periods. If we all were perfect, we wouldn’t need grace and mercy now would we? Don’t be mistaken, you do get to a point where you are able to judge your own actions and determine if it is pleasing to God, but you may miss the mark in your quest for obedience.  Paul even figuratively shares that he was inflicted with a thorn in his side to keep him humble. Your thorn may be a scar, an STD, or some other type of blemish. But God reassures Paul when he says, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

I told my daughter that sometimes you need help with new things. I believe that everyone should have a mentor. I have a spiritual mentor, wife mentor, mom mentor, professional mentor; the list goes on and on. They are people that are not necessarily in “higher” areas of Christianity, but they are more experienced and serve as tangible vessels that God sent me. When I feel like I’m falling, want to fall, or have fallen, my mentors are there to give me godly advice and encouragement. The next thing I told my daughter was “practice makes perfect.” The more you work at, the better you get. I’ve often told my mentees, the more you practice, the louder your Holy Spirit gets. If you are not trying to live a life of spiritual godliness, your conscience is flesh-led. But when you decide to have “help” from the Lord, your conscience submits to the Holy Spirit and it speaks from within. (Read about the Holy Spirit as your helper in John 14.)

Someone reading this is pretty frustrated with their walk. God told me to write this to you a few days ago, but I couldn’t’ seem to pull it together until now. I want to encourage you with this scripture, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 The Holy Spirit is a helper and a sustainer. You may stumble sometimes in this walk, but you’ll realize that these “stumbles” actually propel you forward to a closer walk with God.

Dear Daddy,

Please forgive me for all of my sins. Those I have committed knowingly and unknowingly. On this quest of living a life more pleasing to you, please plant people in my life that will hold me accountable to your ways. Help me to recognize your Spirit and heed to its instructions. When I stumble, help me to realize that you are able to keep me from falling so that I can dust myself off and keep going. These setbacks are just a set up for my blessing. In Jesus’s name I pray, Amen.

Sistah Girl, I EMPOWER you today to keep going. Don’t get discouraged or feel that your walk with Jesus is in vain. This walk is a process, “So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.”  James 1:4 (NLT)  When you hand over your problems, your walk, your faith, and your desires to Jesus, you can say, “Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy,” Jude 1:24 KJV


Allow Psalms 121 to minister to you.


The Hard Part is Getting There… October 19, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 1:11 pm

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 NKJV

For the past month or so I have been in a weightloss rut. I am thankful that the scale hasn’t gone up, but it hasn’t gone down either. This is the point where weight loss becomes discouraging. Especially when you are really trying!!

On Monday I decided I was too tired and too busy to go running but as the day progressed I realized I was sabotaging my self. Who was going to be hurt by me not working out? No one but me! I made a decision to run while my daughter was at dance class later that evening, the track is in walking distance. All while getting dressed I pouted and procratinated, go up, sat down, got back up, sat back down. After all of this hoop-lah of getting ready I prayed:

Dear Lord,

You know I am in a rut, but I want to increase my strength and increase my health. Lord help me relieve this burden of laziness and self discouragement. Please give the strength and motivation to stay on track. I really need you to help me in this.



In God’s awesome fashion, of course my motivation didn’t come right then (Don’t we wish He moved on our clocks sometimes). I still pressed to get to the car. Dropping my daughter off at dance class I felt a shift and realized, I DID IT! I AM HERE!  The hard part is not the workout, it’s getting there. I came out of the studio and proceeded to stretch at my car, turn on my ipod and coasted to the track.

It’s not enough for us to just pray and expect God to move. Faith without works is dead! James 2:20 NKJV   You have to do your part. Do your best, and let God do the rest!

The hard part is getting there. Press your way through and lay aside every weight that besets you, and run the race God has set forth for you to complete. Read Hebrews 12:1




I want to QUIT!!!! September 15, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Exercise,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 6:36 pm

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 NKJV

How many times have you said this to yourself? “I want to quit.” Just the other day I was feeling this way. I didn’t feel like my body was acting right, I didn’t feel like exercising, I didn’t want to eat right, and the weight wasn’t falling off fast enough.

Usually when a friend tells me she feels this way, I tell her, “take a nude picture of yourself! That should be all the motivation you need.” But that wasn’t cutting it on that day. I just simply wanted to give up.

Later that day I received a text message from a friend stating Galatians 5:7-8, “7 You ran well. Who hindered you from obeying the truth? 8 This persuasion does not come from Him who calls you.” Although this is a letter from Paul about love and obedience,  this was so relevant for me. Who in the world deposited that negativity in my spirit?

Sometimes you have to “shake the devil off!!!” Who told you that you couldn’t do it? Who told you that losing weight the right way was impossible? Who told you that you don’t have will power? Who told you to QUIT!! That voice is not the voice of abundance, love, or strength.

I went running this morning and around mile 2 I started to get tired, but I realized that it wasn’t my body getting tired, it was my mind. I had to check my mind, turn up Mary Mary and kick it up a notch! I was not falling prey to negativity on this day! Not when running was something I thought I’d never do and here I am on mile 2!!!!

I encourage you to remember that you can do all things through Christ. When you feel like you want to quit, remember how far you’ve come, and even if that just means making a decision to make a change………..that’s a big step!

Don’t sabotage yourself, you can do it!!!



Priority vs. First September 7, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Family,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 11:24 am

Sometimes during our weight loss journey, or even at the beginning for that matter, we may think we aren’t strong enough or good enough to even pay ourselves that much attention. I remember when I seriously started my journey I had to make a decision. Being such a devoted wife, mother, and employee I was often pulled in many directions. One day God inspired in me the concept of priority versus first. A priority is something that is regarded as “more important.” Whereas first is just that, first. I adopted the notion that I had to make me a priority. That doesn’t mean that I will be first, because sometimes my daughter or husband came first, and truthfully thanks to a loving supportive family, my work would come first. But at the end of the day, I had to make sure that I was a PRIORITY! That meant, certain parts of my day were for me ONLY. Whether is was my Weight Watchers meeting, lunch at the park (even if it was in my car), alone time with God (even if it were in my office), or just a drive, aimlessly, to relax my mind and regroup.

See God tells us, ” In him we were also chosen,having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will,” (Ephesians 1:11 NIV). So this means I don’t have to juggle everything to try and make it work, God is working it out any way.

Further more, “30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:30 NIV) I’ve decided to give God all of the stress and to set myself as a priority!!

This means, I am working out when I need to, I am etching out time in my day!


Self Control…. August 17, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Eating Better,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 9:33 am

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

Let’s be honest. The main reason why many people are overweight is due to a lack of self control *raises hand in shame*. This is indeed a Christian journey for me. Because I am limiting my intake of food, I am realizing that I have to give myself a stopping point. This is such a feat, especially if there is another serving waiting on me to indulge.

While praying and asking God to give me the strength to start and continue this process He shared with me in meditation that I have to get to the root of the problem. My problem did not reside in a bumpy childhood (I think we all have had those). It did not stem from growing up in a single parent home, nor did it stem from emotional abuse from peers and feelings of insecurity. The root of my problem was self control. I could not seem to give myself boundaries with food. Why? Because it doesn’t talk back, and you can manipulate it. Food is not judgmental and it doesn’t show you it’s adverse affects immediately.

I want to encourage you today to take back your life and begin living in God’s way. He desires for us to have self control.  You can start by filling your day with things to do. Plant a garden, go for a walk, read a book, make a phone call to a relative, paint,  or start a new hobby.

We want to eat to live………not live to eat.

God Bless You,



OH MY GOD! – So this is the Abundance you were mentioning! August 14, 2011

Filed under: Christian Journey,Eating Better,Family,Support,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 9:53 pm

Let me first start off by saying…………“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13 NIV)

I was just sitting here reflecting on my dinner the other night. Hubby and I went on a date with a few of our friends. Before the evening, I took the menu, planned, planned, and planned what to eat. This pre-planning did a few things: 1) I didn’t get tempted by the menu because it was familiar to me from looking at it all day. 2) I didn’t have to devour the entire menu because I already new what I wanted. 3) I went ahead and added the points to my calculator, so I new EXACTLY where I was. (I’m on Weight Watchers) My friends chuckled because I specifically asked for NO BUTTER!

I entitled this blog about abundance because I have yet been hit with another “ah ha”. This journey is causing me to look at quite a few more things in my life and I am now focusing on the joy that each of those things bring. I had more to say about last night than just “that food was so good” but I left the table feeling happy because I enjoyed laughing, talking, joking, crying from laughter, etc because I was not consumed with the food.

God wants us to live life in abundance, but this abundance can only be reached by an inner stability. I felt stable last night, I felt joy! I felt like I had self-control.

I feel empowered because to get activity points I take tap dancing lessons. This gives me joy to do something I love, dance!

I am truly living in God’s abundance. I am thankful that he is using WW as my ticket to a happier more empowered me!!

Enjoy this journey, I’m not looking to the end, I am satisfied with today. One meal, one work out, one day, at a time!




Process Without the Processed

Filed under: Eating Better,Weight Loss — kayveebee @ 9:43 pm

“And God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food.” (Genesis 1:29 ESV)

-He did not say Fast Food!

I  am so pumped right now. I have had another “ah-hah” moment. Processed foods, whether tagged “healthy” or tagged “fatty” in abundance are not good for me. I’ve been cooking more, saving money, and my family is gaining an appreciation for my healthier cooked meals. I want to live a long time, (even longer than a McDonald’s french fry!) and the way to do is by taking care of myself. I am putting me as a priority. This doesn’t mean I’m always first, but I am always a priority!

Weight loss this time around is changing my life, I am more active (I was already a gym fanatic) but I am finding more ways to get active in a fun way.

This PROCESS is something I will always go through, I never intend to quit losing weigh. But I have to put down alot of those processed foods, the nutritional value is much lower and I enjoy cooking fresh meals with my daughter, even if she continues to steal all of the ingredients and eat them (raw cabbage, bell pepper, carrots, fruits, you name it, she loves it).

There is also a spiritual lesson I am learning. I have a problem with the fruit of the spirit self control. I feel so blessed to have found this journey to make me happier and a better gal for Christ! I am seeing that this PROCESS is causing not only my eating to become under control, but my attitude as well. God did not make us to be greedy, but to enjoy life and live it abundantly. Cooking meals with and for my family fills my heart abundantly…………….indulging too much on fast food makes me feel bad, because I have been gifted with cooking with love, and I will continue to do so……..without alof of the PROCESSED.

(Well, except for the cheese, lol, but you get my point: decreasing my fast food intake.)

I am loving this process…………without too much of the processed!